My wife's name is "Debra". Thank you for your prayers.Originally Posted by RBB
My wife's name is "Debra". Thank you for your prayers.
1. If it's in your kit and you don't know how to use it....It's useless.
2. If you can't reach your kit when you need it....Its useless.
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A person's attitude can be a huge help for the body to fight illness, even when it's a very serious case. Hard as it may be at times like this, try and get your wife to do all the really fun stuff she loves, that perks her up. Let the docs look after the medical side. Keeping her spirits up and focussing on all beautiful things in life, trying not to dwell too much on what might be a bad outcome, will really boost her body's defenses.
Good thoughts from a wild place for her.
Actions speak louder than words
Thank your WW for the encouragement.
I am doing my best. yesterday I went into town and bought a really nice Angus ribeye steak. I grilled it for dinner and her and I shared it with a fresh spinach salad. I could tell she was pleased with the meal. We then watched our favorite show on TV then went to bed and I prayed for her. This morning she seemed cheerful as she got ready for work. And talked about doing something with the grandkids after work before she comes home.
Last edited by klkak; 09-16-2008 at 06:59 PM. Reason: edit
1. If it's in your kit and you don't know how to use it....It's useless.
2. If you can't reach your kit when you need it....Its useless.
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Klkak, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
I know that feeling of helplessness very well. My fater was paralized for four years. I had to leave school at grade eight and start working. things were very though but what I dreded most was that feeling of fear and hopelessness that kept me awake late at night. Yes I know....and I will pray for you both everyday. (btw I am a catholic)
God Bless.
J
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My thoughts and prayers are with you Klkak...
The way of the canoe is the way of the wilderness and of a freedom almost forgotten- Sigurd Olson
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Thank you so much Jay and Jason.
Debra went to see the Doctor in Anchorage today. He said the tumor was to big to be taken out endoscopicly through her nose so they will have to do a bi-frontal craniotomy. Because the tumor is invading into her sinuses there will be an ENT surgeon on hand to repair the damage to her sinuses. The Doctor said her recovery time would be 6 to 8 weeks. Thats all I got from her on the phone. She will give me the full story when she gets home tonight.
Last edited by klkak; 09-14-2008 at 12:05 AM. Reason: edit
1. If it's in your kit and you don't know how to use it....It's useless.
2. If you can't reach your kit when you need it....Its useless.
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Tell them Kevin sent you!!
Klkak, I too will add you and your wife to my prayers. My wife has had two brain surgeries and three spinal surgeries in the past three years. It is a scary time. Hang in there. Modern medical science can do wonderful things that were virtually impossible only a few years ago. God will give you the peace you seek.
klkak- you and yours will be in my families prayers. Our hearts are with you.
"When young men seek to be like you, when lazy men resent you, when powerful men look over their shoulder at you, when cowardly men plot behind your back, when corrupt men wish you were gone and evil men want you dead; Only then will you have done your share." -Phil Messina
klkak, sorry about that, all of us wish that we could change that.
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This morning when Debra woke up she started cleaning the house like someone possessed. She kept saying she couldn't go into the hospital without the house being clean. It kinda scared me because I could see a trace of fear in her eyes.
1. If it's in your kit and you don't know how to use it....It's useless.
2. If you can't reach your kit when you need it....Its useless.
Alaska Backcountry Adventure Tours
www.youralaskavacation.com
Tell them Kevin sent you!!
Klkak, I will pray for your family, modern medicine is amazing now-a-days.
-Sam
Thank you Sam.
1. If it's in your kit and you don't know how to use it....It's useless.
2. If you can't reach your kit when you need it....Its useless.
Alaska Backcountry Adventure Tours
www.youralaskavacation.com
Tell them Kevin sent you!!
Head from Mexico, I do not trust the USA when it comes to cancer. I will pray also....
Thank you for your prayers Ryan. We are going to stay here in Alaska.
1. If it's in your kit and you don't know how to use it....It's useless.
2. If you can't reach your kit when you need it....Its useless.
Alaska Backcountry Adventure Tours
www.youralaskavacation.com
Tell them Kevin sent you!!
Hey that's okay...who wouldn't be scared? And if you can't fight the beast inside your body hands on, tackling a manual job like that makes a lot of sense...we're all rooting for her!
Actions speak louder than words
It is good you can talk on here Klkak, it makes it easier to be able to talk.You need someone to talk about what you are feeling, whether it is your local pastor, a friend, family member, or whoever, does not matter, just need to talk about what you are going through. It will help.
It is normal for your wife to need/want to be busy, takes her mind off the operation, if just for a minuite. She needs to know she can still do all she normally did, may even do more then before she found out she was sick. Best thing you can do is be there for her, be the shoulder to lean on when she needs it. It sounds like you are now doing just that, and that is all you can do at this time.
You are still in our prayers and thoughts, both of you.
Kevin,
I'm sorry to hear that. My ex-wife had cancer when we were married. It was a bad time for both of us, but attitude can help you get through it. Keep in mind "tumor" is not medically the same as "cancer". The tumor can be non-cancerous. And "cancer" is not a death sentence. Don't assume this is the "end of the road" for her. It has been 4 years since treatment ended for my ex and she is ornery as ever.
I learned they have very good cancer treatments these days, and great meds to fight off the side effects.
Try to find a Gilda's House in your area. They are a support org founded by friends of Gilda Radner, the comedian from Saturday Night Live, and support is all free. They have a library with books on cancer, treatments, and dealing with emotions, support groups, and tips on how to deal with treatments.
I think the hardest part was dealing with the emotions. I assumed nothing, and hoped for the best and I tried to be supportive without asking for anything from my then-wife.
Last edited by bulrush; 09-15-2008 at 10:23 AM.
Wildwoman, Riverrat, Bulrush. Thank you for your encouragement. I am finding that this thread is helping me deal with the emotions.
Debra has to get cardiac clearance before she can have surgery. She is meeting with the Cardiologist today. Some background. Debra has a bad heart. She has had several heart related surgeries. So getting this clearance is very important.
Last edited by klkak; 09-16-2008 at 07:01 PM. Reason: spell check
1. If it's in your kit and you don't know how to use it....It's useless.
2. If you can't reach your kit when you need it....Its useless.
Alaska Backcountry Adventure Tours
www.youralaskavacation.com
Tell them Kevin sent you!!
Kevin,
as the others here have voiced, Debra and you are in my prayers.
some fella confronted me the other day and asked "What's your problem?" So I told him, "I don't have a problem I am a problem"
Thank you Trax.
1. If it's in your kit and you don't know how to use it....It's useless.
2. If you can't reach your kit when you need it....Its useless.
Alaska Backcountry Adventure Tours
www.youralaskavacation.com
Tell them Kevin sent you!!
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