I. We, really need your prayers

[hoosierarcher]

My girlfriend and I have hit a rough patch and she is confused about her feelings for me. I love her with all that is in me. Please pray that God's will be made clear in our relationship. I waited almost 2 decades to find love and can't stand the thought of losing this one and having a re-broken heart. Thanks and God Bless you All.

[rebel]

My girlfriend and I have hit a rough patch and she is confused about her feelings for me. I love her with all that is in me. Please pray that God's will be made clear in our relationship. I waited almost 2 decades to find love and can't stand the thought of losing this one and having a re-broken heart. Thanks and God Bless you All.

God's will or yours? I'm a little confused.


I hope and pray you find happiness.

[crashdive123]

Good luck.

[hunter63]

+1 on the good luck.

[hoosierarcher]

God's will is more important than mine. Mine is selfish and I want her to make the decision on her own not trying to force anything from her. If it's God's will we part I have to just accept it and move on. That is not what I want but if that is the way it has to be..well,so be it.

[jake abraham]

I will pray for Gods will for your relationship

[Sparky93]

+2 on the good luck

[LowKey]

I've often found that God is more willing to help those that find a way to help themselves.
You don't have to tell us what went down but analyze it yourself and if there is any way the relationship can be saved, work together to do it. It has to be together though. One sided apologies or denials won't work.
Good luck.

[Warheit]

Some lessons in life are just hard to learn. Hope it all turns out for the best.

[TresMon]

I will pray for God's will for your relationship.

Here's some harsh but SOUND PRICELESS advice I wish some old dude had beat into my head when I was younger. (Altered for 'net appropriateness, and for a family enviorn)

"She's already got a kitty, she doesn't need two, and she knows it. Don't be a kitty."

Sounds like your already putting out the kitty persona "Love her with all that is within you"
"I waited almost 2 decades to find love and can't stand the thought of losing this one and having a re-broken heart."

Sure tell her your feelings ONCE then stand strong and unwavering. If you messed up, apologize completely and genuinely ONCE. No matter what has occurred Don't be all soft and pleading and run around with your heart in your hand and all open and wanton. All things I used to do when I was crazy about a chick in my young days and the relationship was not going quite right. It WILL run her off. I used to be a kitty when it was the worst thing I could do.

Human's want what they can't have. So don't make her think she can have you at the drop of a hat. Make her KNOW she must do right. And you better KNOW you have to do right as well.

I recently was working on Eugene's TV show deal with a middle aged fella in the same situation you are about a girl. I gave him the same advice and quote. Well- the raw and crude version, language i NEVER use...
He was being total kitty and pouting around her and telling her about his love and achey heart and I was watching him drive her, what he wanted AWAY.

He started listening to me. He started asking me what to do before he did something. I saw the tide start turning. Then at one point she called and said she kinda missed him a little (!!!) all day (!!!) and It made her have a bad day- ot was a voice message sge left. (I made him stop answering her every phone call.)
He was dying to call her back and tell her I MISSED YOU TOO!!! ILOVE YOU!!!!! blah blah blah.

When he called her back I made him say, "sorry for your bad day. I had a Great day- me and a friend went for a ride through the mountains on my motorcycle- it was great."

Which was not a lie. I was the friend, lol. He had offered for me to ride his bike, then decided he didn't want to have nothing to do and end up poking around in the dirt while everyone was off having fun on the off day. So he hopped on the back of his bike as I went for a ride. Not a typical motorcycling scenario for me at all but harmless so okay.

Anywho his gal of course assumed it was another woman he was riding with in the mountains..... She prolly took it and ran with it mentally.

He noted she was perking back up towards him. Long story short he changed his Kitty behavior into man behavior. I talked to him not long ago and they are back together and "things are better than ever."

Be a kitty and loose the girl (DRIVe her away) 90% of the time.
Be a man and you got at least 50/50 odds or better with the girl. But 100% odds you keep your dignity & self respect.

Never play games. I have not suggested or condone playing games. I shed light on factual psychology.
I got this from and suggest the book "Love must be tough" By James Dobson- "the Focus on the Family" Christian man

[pgvoutdoors]

Archer, I hope the new year brings you peace and confirms your and your girlfriend's feelings for each other. Take care and be true to each other.

[kyratshooter]

"Confused Feelings" is the term used for trying to decide if she can do better. Either way, you loose.

[wareagle69]

i have always wanted happiness and inner peace-sometimes that comes from being alone
george strait said it best-you can't make a heart love somebody-you can lead a heart to love but you can't make it fall.

[hoosierarcher]

She told me today she feels it's over. So thanks now just pray I can find my way now. I just mean ask God that where he wants me to go now is made clear.

[TresMon]

PM sent to your box

[Phaedrus]

She told me today she feels it's over. So thanks now just pray I can find my way now. I just mean ask God that where he wants me to go now is made clear.

I wish you well, buddy. You have to decide if, deep down, you want to work this out and salvage the relationship. If you do, then I gotta tell you TresMon spoke the truest words you'll ever hear. You have to flat out prove to her that you don't need her. It sounds counter-intuitive, I realize it, but deep down almost no woman wants to really be your whole reason to live. That's just too much pressure to live with. Confidence and independence are very attractive qualities in a man; neediness and insecurity are not. Desperation drive women away in droves.

In a way to have to "fake it til you make it." That doesn't mean you should deceive her, it just means you'll have to act a little stronger than you are...until you grow stronger. And that comes when you realize that be it God's will or just dumb luck, it is what it is.

I can 99% guarantee you that if you told her you understand her and completely agree- you should split up- but do it in a nice way, within a few days she will call you. When she does, keep it light and sound very positive. Don't blurt out a declaration of undying love. Keep the call short & very upbeat. And it's important that you be the one to cut the call short; you're a busy guy. It was great to talk but I gotta run, let's chat again some time, bye!

It comes down to what Tres said: Women don't want a housecat, they want a Lion. Somewhere inside of yourself you gotta find your "inner lion"!

Good luck in any event.

[hoosierarcher]

This isn't the first time I have had my heart broken. It seems to be the worst for so many reasons. I went 15 years alone and finally met someone and fell in love. I had the best 6 months of my post 40 life. I had an actual HOME for the first time in 15 years. Home is not a place where one lives alone and apart. Home is a place of shared life and love. To a man home is the place his beloved lays her head at rest and he lays beside her. No matter if it is a tent in a wild place, a castle on a hill, a humble cottage in the country or even the back of a station wagon in a Walmart parking lot, if life and love are shared it is HOME. So I lost much more than a girlfriend. It has been difficult to eat right or sleep well. My blood sugar has been too low almost every time I have bother to test it. Thanks Moderators for allowing me to get these things out and share them so the sour feelings don't stay inside and fester into something dark and maybe even dangerous.

[TresMon]

I think I have read and read into this: You claim God, you want prayer, you were shacking up, in the same bed, with your girlfriend, which means non-wife and wanted God to bless your desire for reconciliation and endorse the situation. I think.

[hoosierarcher]

The shared bed was sleep only. I'm a Christian; but not a puritan. I am an insomniac and if the bed is used for anything other than sleep I find it harder to sleep. So I don't eat, watch TV, read, listen to music, or even make love. I have to keep a strict sleep system in place. If you'd ever gone 7 and a half days unable to sleep you'd be as O/C regarding sleep as me.

[crashdive123]

This is quickly going down the path of TMI.