Originally Posted by
remy
What if, and it is not a very powerful "if", "a newbie" would give you as an intro...
-fake name
-fake bio
-fake location
-fake interests
-fake occupation
We could still have a meaningful rapport and have many discussions about many different subjects, the "introduction" meaning absolutely nothing.
Your analogy negates to take in consideration the "true" introduction/information, as in body language, eyes, tone of voice, facial expressions, chemicals, temperaments, attitude...etc.
Pict could be making up his name, his location, his interests and his occupation, and still fulfill his role here.
Because, in the end, that is what it is about...roles.
You have yours, i have mine, Crash or Bragg have theirs and so on...we all have a role, and this role does not rest on a vague, incomplete, fake or even true introduction.
It is based on what we do here...on our style, our approach...
Let's say i am a "newbie" (i dislike this term but OK...), and i arrive here...if i look at the active member's "about me" after being told to introduce myself, i will find nothing.
Because we all know that personal information is at large irrelevant to the main interest which is survival...in fact, in many ways, giving personal information is often viewed as counter intuitive in terms of "survival".
Dogs and cats make themselves bigger by fluffing their backs while "introducing" themselves. And most living things send mixed signals, have built-in camouflage systems, or adopt certain attitudes upon a bump which do not reflect "who they are", since who they are is a lot more than an introduction.
Introductions are influences.
For specific conversations, the need for certain information is indeed relevant...as in the location of the individual, to better personalize the advise on plants or shelter or who knows what...but after that...the need to acquire information is added baggage and therefore weight.
It is not in FVR's "about me" that i find "friendship", but in his place here, his role, his style, his presence, his contribution, the relevance of his posts and the coherence of his words...
Simply put, i can come here with a fake everything, and still fulfill my role. So what is the motivation behind "introducing" myself if not the resolution of untold protocols based on power, need, control and compulsions ?
What are the motivations of an individual like Nell, to again and again ask for information, when her participation here is at best a substitute for feeling like she is part of something ?
Having said that, she is fulfilling her role here...
Which says a lot more about her, than any "introduction" could ever do.
You know what i mean ?
The "introduction" is our participation, the fulfillment of our role...the "introduction" is the revealing of our nature, our temperament, the coherence of our words, and not a "bio" or a "location", or a list of interests.
The "introduction", is our role.
Show me your role, and i will tell you who you are.
Tell me who you are, and i will tell you who you are not.