I. We, really need your prayers

[hoosierarcher]

My girlfriend and I have hit a rough patch and she is confused about her feelings for me. I love her with all that is in me. Please pray that God's will be made clear in our relationship. I waited almost 2 decades to find love and can't stand the thought of losing this one and having a re-broken heart. Thanks and God Bless you All.

[rebel]

My girlfriend and I have hit a rough patch and she is confused about her feelings for me. I love her with all that is in me. Please pray that God's will be made clear in our relationship. I waited almost 2 decades to find love and can't stand the thought of losing this one and having a re-broken heart. Thanks and God Bless you All.

God's will or yours? I'm a little confused.


I hope and pray you find happiness.

[crashdive123]

Good luck.

[hunter63]

+1 on the good luck.

[hoosierarcher]

God's will is more important than mine. Mine is selfish and I want her to make the decision on her own not trying to force anything from her. If it's God's will we part I have to just accept it and move on. That is not what I want but if that is the way it has to be..well,so be it.

[jake abraham]

I will pray for Gods will for your relationship

[Sparky93]

+2 on the good luck

[LowKey]

I've often found that God is more willing to help those that find a way to help themselves.
You don't have to tell us what went down but analyze it yourself and if there is any way the relationship can be saved, work together to do it. It has to be together though. One sided apologies or denials won't work.
Good luck.

[Warheit]

Some lessons in life are just hard to learn. Hope it all turns out for the best.

[TresMon]

I will pray for God's will for your relationship.

Here's some harsh but SOUND PRICELESS advice I wish some old dude had beat into my head when I was younger. (Altered for 'net appropriateness, and for a family enviorn)

"She's already got a kitty, she doesn't need two, and she knows it. Don't be a kitty."

Sounds like your already putting out the kitty persona "Love her with all that is within you"
"I waited almost 2 decades to find love and can't stand the thought of losing this one and having a re-broken heart."

Sure tell her your feelings ONCE then stand strong and unwavering. If you messed up, apologize completely and genuinely ONCE. No matter what has occurred Don't be all soft and pleading and run around with your heart in your hand and all open and wanton. All things I used to do when I was crazy about a chick in my young days and the relationship was not going quite right. It WILL run her off. I used to be a kitty when it was the worst thing I could do.

Human's want what they can't have. So don't make her think she can have you at the drop of a hat. Make her KNOW she must do right. And you better KNOW you have to do right as well.

I recently was working on Eugene's TV show deal with a middle aged fella in the same situation you are about a girl. I gave him the same advice and quote. Well- the raw and crude version, language i NEVER use...
He was being total kitty and pouting around her and telling her about his love and achey heart and I was watching him drive her, what he wanted AWAY.

He started listening to me. He started asking me what to do before he did something. I saw the tide start turning. Then at one point she called and said she kinda missed him a little (!!!) all day (!!!) and It made her have a bad day- ot was a voice message sge left. (I made him stop answering her every phone call.)
He was dying to call her back and tell her I MISSED YOU TOO!!! ILOVE YOU!!!!! blah blah blah.

When he called her back I made him say, "sorry for your bad day. I had a Great day- me and a friend went for a ride through the mountains on my motorcycle- it was great."

Which was not a lie. I was the friend, lol. He had offered for me to ride his bike, then decided he didn't want to have nothing to do and end up poking around in the dirt while everyone was off having fun on the off day. So he hopped on the back of his bike as I went for a ride. Not a typical motorcycling scenario for me at all but harmless so okay.

Anywho his gal of course assumed it was another woman he was riding with in the mountains..... She prolly took it and ran with it mentally.

He noted she was perking back up towards him. Long story short he changed his Kitty behavior into man behavior. I talked to him not long ago and they are back together and "things are better than ever."

Be a kitty and loose the girl (DRIVe her away) 90% of the time.
Be a man and you got at least 50/50 odds or better with the girl. But 100% odds you keep your dignity & self respect.

Never play games. I have not suggested or condone playing games. I shed light on factual psychology.
I got this from and suggest the book "Love must be tough" By James Dobson- "the Focus on the Family" Christian man

[pgvoutdoors]

Archer, I hope the new year brings you peace and confirms your and your girlfriend's feelings for each other. Take care and be true to each other.

[kyratshooter]

"Confused Feelings" is the term used for trying to decide if she can do better. Either way, you loose.

[wareagle69]

i have always wanted happiness and inner peace-sometimes that comes from being alone
george strait said it best-you can't make a heart love somebody-you can lead a heart to love but you can't make it fall.

[hoosierarcher]

She told me today she feels it's over. So thanks now just pray I can find my way now. I just mean ask God that where he wants me to go now is made clear.

[TresMon]

PM sent to your box

[Phaedrus]

She told me today she feels it's over. So thanks now just pray I can find my way now. I just mean ask God that where he wants me to go now is made clear.

I wish you well, buddy. You have to decide if, deep down, you want to work this out and salvage the relationship. If you do, then I gotta tell you TresMon spoke the truest words you'll ever hear. You have to flat out prove to her that you don't need her. It sounds counter-intuitive, I realize it, but deep down almost no woman wants to really be your whole reason to live. That's just too much pressure to live with. Confidence and independence are very attractive qualities in a man; neediness and insecurity are not. Desperation drive women away in droves.

In a way to have to "fake it til you make it." That doesn't mean you should deceive her, it just means you'll have to act a little stronger than you are...until you grow stronger. And that comes when you realize that be it God's will or just dumb luck, it is what it is.

I can 99% guarantee you that if you told her you understand her and completely agree- you should split up- but do it in a nice way, within a few days she will call you. When she does, keep it light and sound very positive. Don't blurt out a declaration of undying love. Keep the call short & very upbeat. And it's important that you be the one to cut the call short; you're a busy guy. It was great to talk but I gotta run, let's chat again some time, bye!

It comes down to what Tres said: Women don't want a housecat, they want a Lion. Somewhere inside of yourself you gotta find your "inner lion"!

Good luck in any event.

[hoosierarcher]

This isn't the first time I have had my heart broken. It seems to be the worst for so many reasons. I went 15 years alone and finally met someone and fell in love. I had the best 6 months of my post 40 life. I had an actual HOME for the first time in 15 years. Home is not a place where one lives alone and apart. Home is a place of shared life and love. To a man home is the place his beloved lays her head at rest and he lays beside her. No matter if it is a tent in a wild place, a castle on a hill, a humble cottage in the country or even the back of a station wagon in a Walmart parking lot, if life and love are shared it is HOME. So I lost much more than a girlfriend. It has been difficult to eat right or sleep well. My blood sugar has been too low almost every time I have bother to test it. Thanks Moderators for allowing me to get these things out and share them so the sour feelings don't stay inside and fester into something dark and maybe even dangerous.

[TresMon]

I think I have read and read into this: You claim God, you want prayer, you were shacking up, in the same bed, with your girlfriend, which means non-wife and wanted God to bless your desire for reconciliation and endorse the situation. I think.

[hoosierarcher]

The shared bed was sleep only. I'm a Christian; but not a puritan. I am an insomniac and if the bed is used for anything other than sleep I find it harder to sleep. So I don't eat, watch TV, read, listen to music, or even make love. I have to keep a strict sleep system in place. If you'd ever gone 7 and a half days unable to sleep you'd be as O/C regarding sleep as me.

[crashdive123]

This is quickly going down the path of TMI.

[TresMon]

This is quickly going down the path of TMI.
What's TMI? du-tell!

[Rick]

Stay with me on this, Tresmon. It's highly technical. Too.....Much.....Information.

[Rick]

There are only three things a bed was made for. Sleeping, watching TV. Hmmmm. There was something else but for the life of me I can't remember. Hang on. Hey honey........

[TresMon]

Stay with me on this, Tresmon. It's highly technical. Too.....Much.....Information.
Roger dodger. Thanks.

[sh4d0wm4573ri7]

Wishing you and your's the best of luck in the coming year's

[Sarge47]

"If you love something, let it go.

If it comes back to you, it's yours.

If it doesn't, it never was."

I have my own opinions on this but will stay away from discussing religion on this forum. You've made your point, I think that's enough. If it goes any further this thread will be locked down. :cool2:

[TresMon]

"If you love something, let it go.

If it comes back to you, it's yours.

If it doesn't, it never was."

I have my own opinions on this but will stay away from discussing religion on this forum. You've made your point, I think that's enough. If it goes any further this thread will be locked down. :cool2:

If the locking was pointed at me- I was already out of the thread for good my bro.

[Sarge47]

If the locking was pointed at me- I was already out of the thread for good my bro.

No, it was posted for the op! :cool2:

[Sarge47]

There are only three things a bed was made for. Sleeping, watching TV. Hmmmm. There was something else but for the life of me I can't remember. Hang on. Hey honey........

Eating Twinkies, remember? :whistling:

[Rick]

That's it! Thank you.

[randyt]

and wearing a thong or hong

[Rick]

Nah. I can do that any time. Like right now. Where's my camera? It's around here some where.

[BENESSE]

Now radyt, was you bored or just creating mischief?!
We're 3 days into a new year and you bring up the hong.
Honestly....!!!

[TresMon]

Now radyt, was you bored or just creating mischief?!
We're 3 days into a new year and you bring up the hong.
Honestly....!!!

Hong? I never heard of a hong unless you mean it's a kong. ??

[BENESSE]

Hong? I never heard of a hong unless you mean it's a kong. ??

I'm gonna let randyt elucidate 'cause he brought it up.
All I can say is fasten your seat belt...it's gonna be a bumpy ride.
Hope you got some Dramamine.

[Rick]

A long time ago someone took a picture of me and posted it on the internet. B won't let me use the T word so I have to call it a hong. Everyone complains about my hong but no one bothers to compliment me on my boots or hat.

http://th1184.photobucket.com/albums/z322/ItsJustUs12/th_fat_man_thong_stairs.jpg

[TresMon]

My eyes! make it stop!!! My eyes! Quick, man the red hot fire poker! Sear'm!!!!!!!
Bleach my face, PLEASE!

I surrender! Take my country! just Please stop the bad dreams of the scarey man!

[hunter63]

aaaaaah.....some things can't be un-seen....OMG and It's just the third.........

[Rick]

See what I mean? Not one, "Gee, those are really nice boots." Not one, "Cool, nice hat". I'm beginning to feel insulted.

[Sarge47]

I told ya time and time again to lay off the Twinkies, but do you listen? No! And the reason nobody comments on your hat and boots is because they're struck blind by the pic! BTW, what are you doing next Saturday? :innocent: :sneaky2: :whistling:

[TresMon]

See what I mean? Not one, "Gee, those are really nice boots." Not one, "Cool, nice hat". I'm beginning to feel insulted.
From the image that's permanently, I fear, burned into my frontal cortex- You had two feet on the steps and a hand on the hand rail- maintaining three points of contact as you climbed. I think. Good use of saftey. I think. I'm not going back to look.

Happy?

[Sparky93]

wh kdhs j xsb;y dww@@@ Rgubfa rgsr xsb;r vw ybawwb@@@

[Sparky93]

wh kdhs j xsby dww@@@ Rgubfa rgsr xsb;r vw ybawwb@@@

Sorry bout that, I temporarily went blind do to Rick's picture and couldn't see to type....

[hoosierarcher]

WOW this has really gone off the rails.

[Sarge47]

WOW this has really gone off the rails.

The other party hasn't posted their side of the story. I never take the word of just one side over the other. That's not fair to both parties involved. :cool2:

BTW, why am I the only guy who thinks Rick looks hot in that pic? :innocent: :sneaky2: :whistling:

[Sparky93]

WOW this has really gone off the rails.

On a crazy train brother, on a crazy train....

[Phaedrus]

WOW this has really gone off the rails.

Well, best of luck to you whatever happens. If life gives you a second chance with her, then at least consider what I said. As cheesy as it sounds, the old "if you something set it free..." is true. It takes a lot of courage to do that, to just let it go and not pursue. But often pursuit will just cause her to run faster. Men and women are supposed to support and complement each other, not become crutches. It's understandable to feel like you can't live without her, but if that's true what do you bring to the table for her? I haven't walked a mile in your shoes and I don't know the whole story but it sounds like you allowed yourself to lose yourself in her, allowed yourself to diminish at the expense of your relationship. And man, it's easy to do. You hang with the GF so much that you neglect your friends; after the 20th time of asking if you want to go have a brew or catch a game, they get tired you saying "no" and they quit asking. You and your GF's lives can start to merge until you don't know where yours ends and hers begins.

Believe me, brother, I been there & done that. It sounds like you won't find love until you find yourself.

I wish you luck. Maybe she'll give you a chance, maybe not. But you're gonna be alright.

[Rick]

Life is tough. I wish it weren't but it is. There are many on here that have gone through divorce. Some a couple of times. Many with kids involved. It doesn't get much harder than that. As difficult as it might be at the moment be thankful for the fact that you are finding out now before you invest a lot of yourself and time in the relationship and there are no kids involved.

When you get dressed this morning put on your good face, brush off your shoulders and face live square on. Tell her it was a swell time but the right gal is out there for you and go find her.

[BENESSE]

HA...without knowing the whole story, I can only offer this at the risk of psycho-babbling.
As much as it's nice to have other people in our lives and partners with whom to share the good and the bad, our happiness shouldn't be dependent on them to such an extent that it shakes our core when they're not around anymore. That's giving them too much power. And it doesn't make us particularly strong in their eyes while it leaves us wide open to disappointment.
People will come and go but we've got to live with ourselves til the day we die. If our mind body and soul are solid (our elementary preps) we'll be able to withstand any blows that come our way without being crippled by them. That's the kind of people we want to be around, that's the kind of people others want to be around. Be that kind of person. Work on it as hard as you worked on anything in your life. Everything else will come.

[nell67]

I hate you Rick......you have some serious issues putting that out there like that......ggggrrrrrrr.......GGGGRRRRRR


FOr any one who does not get this,and I should have clarified....it was the pic that I was hating him for...RIck knows I still love him.

[nell67]

HA, The reason you asked for prayers does not matter as much as the fact that you asked for prayers,and I don't judge,nor begrudge a persons need for prayers.


Prayers for you brother.

[Sarge47]

I have prayed for your healing, but not for your reconciliation with the lady as I have not heard her side of things and to take one side over the other is simply not fair. Also you two would then have to be legally wed; God does not bless an illicit relationship, just my opinion. :cool2:

[Rick]

Yeah, the hong pic was bad.

[TresMon]

Soular powered by the son.

That's awesome!

[randyt]

there ya go TresMon, the real Rick, LOL.

yup I was creating mischief, LOL.

[TresMon]

Um I'm not gonna say "thanks" randyt, lol.

[randyt]

I am really surprised Rick hasn't used that photo for a avatar.

[crashdive123]

I'd change it for him, but he'd probably turn me into a newt.

[BENESSE]

7189 Ooops...don't know what happened.

[crashdive123]

Zactly......

[jake abraham]

just find yourself & be happy with yourself and things will work out

[Rick]

I have closed this thread since the OP has been banned.