Hey guys,
I know like talking about my issues in a public forum may not be the greatest thing ever,
But I do feel there are a lot OF men here with a whole lot more life experience than myself.
Basically here is my scenario,
about 2 and a half years ago, I put an end to a relationship I had with a Girl for lying and cheating on me basically.
My friends also became friends with this person, and still remain friends with her, its actually quiet sad to me as the situation in my mind would make people choose a side (well generally they do in my experiences) I am bombarded with social media with them going out to the kinds of parties I really want nothing to do with ,the type of parties that made me wake up and choose something else, psytrance parties filled with drugs etc) I left all that behind and started doing things for myself, that's when I actually found survival ( i started up with my basic course, and continued from there, I feel in love with nature and being a 'man" and self reliant, also it healed my heart and gave me a deep understanding of whom I truly am and what truly matters.
Basically I had been prior to all this to about 4 of these parties, got peer pressured into taking MDMA (its like Ecstasy) i done this about 3 or 4 x times, I woke up in the middle of the night really scared and worried cause I had realized something, no-one wakes up one day and is a drug addict its a slow steady spiral to it, and then you in a hole you cannot get out... I told me Girlfriend at the time I want us to stop, I want to move on and become better than this, I wanted something Good for our future, she basically told me she would do it behind my back, we fought a lot and well it was on a short leash the relationship now, and then a week later I caught her kissing a friend of mine, I ended the relationship right there with her, and also stopped being friends with that other Guy...
however my other friends where there with me ( the same that had been with me, peer pressured me into drugs and parties and had witnessed this)
I split ways with that Girl, and still remained friends with those others guys (the one Guy I been friends with for 18 years, he was the one that was egging me along into these drugs and parties) I sat him down and his brother (i known them for a long time, hell I even did church camps with them in my youth)
I told them my fears of these drugs and parties, and I also Asked them to not be friends with my ex, to choose a side basically..
they have not till this day..
low and behold a year later I found the love of my Life, and now fiance', she is an awesome woman, and is a qualified Game ranger here in southern Africa in the kruger region, although that is not what she does professionally, she is they type of girl that loves to CAMP and out doors etc.. the perfect Woman..
anyway my friends still see my ex, still attend these parties and Myself and my Fiance are now every month lambasted with Social media of my Best mates of 18 years going around frequenting with my ex, it really makes me Irate, and It also HIGHLY upsets my fiance to see it also...
What would you do?
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